Although bullying continues to be a serious problem in schools, it’s not limited to kids in lunchrooms and locker rooms. People of all ages can be affected in different environments. Bullying happens in workplaces, social groups, neighborhoods, and within families.
Because of social media and other online platforms, bullying can be constant and relentless. In other words, it doesn’t stop once you get home from school or leave work. Intimidation, humiliation, harassment, and physical abuse can cause chronic stress and mental health challenges that leave scars that last for decades.
October is Bullying Prevention Awareness Month. Let’s discuss the effects of bullying on people in different age groups and how to help someone who is bullied.
Children and Teens
For young people, bullying is often verbal and physical and continues online with photos, videos, and hurtful comments.
The immediate trauma from bullying can lead to school avoidance, depression, unexplained sadness, withdrawal from social situations, self-criticism, and secrecy. In severe cases, bullying can cause kids to develop substance use disorders and even think about suicide.
Young Adults
For college students and people starting jobs, bullying can involve social exclusion, verbal and online harassment, and hostile environments. Victims are often living on their own for the first time, perhaps without a support system, and might not ask for help.
In this age group, victims can experience panic attacks, a drop in academic or work performance, and chronic stress.
Adults
As adults, intimidation, humiliation, rejection, gossip, and abuse in the workplace often go unreported because victims are afraid of losing their job or being considered weak. Bullying may lead to burnout, depression, withdrawal, and even forms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
Domestic bullying often involves control over a spouse through threats and physical and verbal intimidation. Victims are often in a constant state of high alert in work and social settings.
How to Help Victims of Bullying
Listen to them. Never dismiss bullying as part of growing up, a rite of passage in a career, or a normal part of any relationship. Bullying is a serious problem, not unpleasant behavior. Validate their experience and let them know you’re here for them.
Document incidents, follow a school or employer’s reporting procedures, and watch for changes in mood, behavior, and physical appearance. If you or someone you know has is experiencing a crisis, call or text the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline for 24/7 mental health, suicide or alcohol/druf use support. Call 911 if you or someone else is in immediate danger or needs emergency medical attention.
If you or someone you know needs mental health support, contact our Access Center at 1-800-963-3377 for help finding services that fit your needs.
