Millions of individuals across the country provide crucial care and assistance to parents, children, siblings and other loved ones every day. November recognizes National Family Caregivers Month, a time to raise awareness about the challenges of caregiving and increase the accessibility of support services for caregivers.
Navigating life as a family caregiver for an individual living with a mental illness can be both physically and emotionally stressful. When your loved one is diagnosed, finding appropriate medical and psychiatric care becomes your first priority. But as a caregiver, often times YOU need help finding balance in your life.
The Oaks Intensive Family Support Services (IFSS) program in Camden and Mercer Counties offers therapeutic support, education and resources for those caring for an adult with a serious mental illness. Recently, an individual from our IFSS program shared her story about the program’s impact:
“Navigating the Uncharted Waters of Mental Illness”
A Story of Resilience
I always felt protective of my younger sibling since she came into my life just shy of my third birthday – what a beautiful gift! In my teenage years, I discovered our father suffered from mental illness which we were told not to speak to anyone about. Our two very loving parents tried their best to cope with the mood swings; however, there was very little help, medication or educational information available at this time.
During her college years, we discovered my younger sister was also showing symptoms of mental illness, and once again, my mother opposed communication about it. My sister went on to graduate from college and worked as a teacher for a number of years. During the time she was working and living independently, my mother passed away in 2003 (dad passed in 1996).
In 2008, my sister lost her job which is when I became involved in her day-to-day life. I had very few tools other than what I had observed from watching my mother growing up. She was hospitalized on three different occasions, and I officially became her legal guardian in 2012. Becoming her caretaker impacted my life and my family’s life, as my husband and children often had to share time with me and my sister.
Because of my sister’s refusal to visit the doctor, I was referred to Oaks Integrated Care. Oaks provided me with a toolbox to cope with my situation, through numerous seminars, support group meetings and respite activities. The seminars taught me about boundaries, medications, treatments, communication skills (ways to speak with your loved ones) and available programs. Support groups showed me how others experience similar situations, knowing they understand and do not judge. The respite activities provided an opportunity for me to meet with my sister in a neutral area. Over time, it helped mend strains between us and allowed us to reconnect.
Twelve years later, my sister lives on her own, works two part-time jobs she loves and has not been hospitalized overnight once. She is actively involved in her church and community. It may not be the life she planned, but I remind her that she makes a difference. I would definitely recommend Oaks and IFSS to others. One of my goals in life is to help others navigate the uncharted waters of mental illness and make sure it’s something we can talk about.
Oaks understands caring for a loved one with mental illness can be both physically and emotionally stressful. If you or someone you love is struggling with mental health, consider speaking with a mental health professional to navigate the treatment process. To learn more, call our Access Center at 1-800-963-3377 or fill out a contact form.
