Accepting help from others can sometimes feel like a daunting task. Many individuals experience levels of discomfort and personal difficulties depending on others for assistance in everyday life. Additionally, many who struggle with mental health may not feel a need for help. Listening to those offering help can be the first step toward growth and progress.
According to Psychology Today, challenges accepting help stem from irregularities in attachment history. “Our early attachments help shape how we relate to others and how we expect others to relate to us,” shares clinical psychologist Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. “If we weren’t used to receiving consistent, quality care from our parents or attachment figures, it can feel confusing to accept this from others throughout our lives.”
It can be especially hard to admit to needing help. Letting others in may feel like it goes against the natural need to be independent and can increase internal levels of vulnerability. Some may experience feelings of weakness, guilt, denial, or insecurity, all of which are normal and understandable. However, accepting help strengthens relationships and increases purpose and happiness.
Starting the process of letting others in begins with locating the source of the discomfort. What makes asking for help challenging? Breaking down this barrier can bring others in, rather than keeping them at a distance. Despite the initial feeling of discomfort, accepting help often brings in new and beneficial perspectives. “The more we can accept, the more we have to offer,” explains Firestone. “We have to stop seeing help as selfish, but rather as a healthy way to respond to others and enrich our relationships.”
Taking the steps to open up for support is an important part of change and recovery. Oaks understands accepting help can sometimes be a persistent source of distress; speaking with a counselor or joining a support group can help. If you or someone you love is struggling with mental health, consider speaking with a mental health professional to navigate the process.
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